The Realest Cheat Code for Confidence

In a world where everything feels out of our control, the good news is: there is something you can control — your self work.

No one ever regrets self-development. Ever. And honestly? Now is as good a time as any to start.

In my daily conversations with teenage girls and dance moms, I’ve discovered a couple things:

1. We ALL need help.

2. Confidence isn’t something you’re born with — it’s something you build.

Whether it’s offering my community access to therapy at an extremely discounted rate or pouring confidence into these girls by the tub, what I know for sure is this:

Nothing I say will ever be louder than what they believe about themselves.

That’s why I believe so deeply in the power of positive self-talk — and specifically, mirror work.

What Happens in the Studio is a Whole Metaphor

Something interesting happens almost every week in class.

I’ll demonstrate a movement — hopefully with some ease (lol) — and immediately, I get the blank stare.

That "Yeah, that’s cute for you, Ms. Erin, but I could never do that" stare.

So I say to them:

“Can we skip the part where you doubt yourself and get straight to the part where we break it down, step by step?”

Because here’s the truth I’ve learned after years in these dance streets:

Dance is an illusion.

If it didn’t look difficult at first glance, people wouldn’t pay to see it on a stage.

It’s meant to look effortless — but that’s the end product. That’s the reward after the process. And that’s exactly like confidence.

The Truth About Self-Confidence

Self-confidence doesn’t start as a "glowed up Boss Babe" moment.

It starts withered, broken, unsure, and full of self-doubt.

It starts with:

• Shaky mirror stares

• Cringe-worthy pep talks

• Journals full of questions

• Showing up even when you don’t feel like it

The glow-up comes after the repetition.

🪞🪞 what are you saying to yourself in the mirror? 🪞🪞

The Practice That Changed Everything

I’ve developed a practice of Mirror Work that truly transformed my life.

It helped me stop waiting for validation and start creating my own.

It gave me the courage to step into entrepreneurship, where other people’s livelihoods depend on the clarity of my vision — a level of responsibility my only-child brain did not fully comprehend at first.

But I did it. Because I practiced.

And now? I’m working on something that I believe could be the most impactful thing I’ve ever created.

Something that will help teenage girls — and moms, too — go from questionable self-worth to divinely connected to the ultimate source of confidence.

Because confidence isn’t just about how you look or what you achieve.

It’s about who you believe you are — and Who you believe made you.

The time is now. And this is only the beginning.

Stay tuned.

—Erin